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Ten Things Every Nigerian Lady Must Avoid If You Want Him To Marry You This Year

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The thought of getting married to your dream man is indeed an overwhelming one, and the Nigerian ladies are known to show attractive and highly appealing characters to achieve this further.

A successful marriage was once a product of a thoughtfully planned courting process. However, during the course of courting as a Nigerian lady, there are certain things you must avoid if you wish to walk the aisle side by side with your dream man.

This article will take you through “Ten things every Nigerian lady must avoid if you want him to get married to you.”

1. Do not disrespect him!
This is easily the first thing that comes up on this list! Every man loves to be respected, and in return, he reciprocates this by offering his undying love and affection to you.

Never disrespect a man either by speaking provocatively or disrespectfully. Most ladies tends to think their beautiful face is a passport to be rude: you will end in premium tears.

Let him talk when he needs to, and do not interrupt him by chipping in unless completely necessary.

2. Pre-marital sex could spell the end of your relationship.
If you’re in a serious relationship with a man, I strongly recommend you stay away from pre-marital sex outside your relationship.

Nigerian ladies love to have options, and in the course of this, they tend to flirt and engage in pre-marital sex outside their relationships. Undoubtedly, many do it for money!

It may seem like all is hidden, but trust me, you are certainly dragging your relationship into a path you may never return.

3. Choking him up with constant attention
Giving your man too much attention is one mistake most Nigerian ladies make in a new relationship.

They tend to be very clingy. Men love to be given a breathing space without having to beg for it. You don’t have to be with him 24/7 for him to know you love him; letting him have some time alone is just the right way to show him that you care about his well-being, and soon, he will see you as wife material.

Avoid texting and calling every opportunity you get, visiting him at all times. While this may not be a negative intention, your potential husband might get bored of you and decide to look outside the relationship for fun and excitement.

4. Paying no attention to his problems and needs
A good wife is one that is supportive physically, mentally, and morally and men are very sensitive to this trait; they’ll easily know when you do not care about their problems.

Try to understand what bothers him; most men won’t openly spill their problems to you. Instead, study your man and look for signs of trouble or uneasiness and offer help where necessary.

5. Depending on your man’s wealth
A hard-working lady is a sign of a good wife who will offer support to the family. Do not be dependent on your mans’ wealth if you want him to get married to you.

Most men fear they may have to bear the marriage cost, living cost, and every other financial attachment for the rest of their life if they get married to a woman who isn’t financially dependent.

A man needs to know you can be there for him when he needs you, stand in for him when he isn’t available, and support him when he faces tough times. A woman dependent on her mans’ wealth is like a dead weight, and soon he’ll cut you off.

6. Keeping a bad company of friends
Keeping a bad company of friends is widely unaccepted by men. If you’ve got friends that engage in pre-marital sex, gossip, smoke, etc.,

Try to avoid them for the sake of your future marriage plans. Men feel keeping such friends would influence you, and as such will go further to try and persuade you to leave such friends.

And in most cases, your unwillingness to heed to his advice may cost you your relationship.

7. Nagging and complaining about every little thing
He isn’t very wealthy, he doesn’t have a car, he doesn’t give you enough money, he didn’t buy you the most expensive engagement ring, he doesn’t spoil you with gifts here and there.

That’s quite a lot of complaint and will surely drive away your man in the long run. Men hate ladies that nag and complain over every little thing. If you want him to get married to you, avoid this like a plague.

8. Not listening to his advice.
Again you are probably thinking why the heck am I including all these little things when there are more significant concerns.

The truth is, paying deaf ears to his advice and orders show that you care less about what he feels about you, and this is much more disrespectful than having to use offensive words on him.

Try to listen as well as take action when he advises you, and listen to his orders when you’re wrong. Soon he’ll know you’re the suitable wife material for him.

9. Not being truthful
Keeping a relationship means sharing your love, problems, secrets, and most importantly, telling each other the truth! Keeping the truth from your man is like a ticking time bomb just awaiting for the last second to blow off.

Do you have a bad history or a secret you keep? Share it with your partner else he may find out on his own, and that wouldn’t pan out well. Share your secrets, and always try to be truthful in a relationship, and he’ll appreciate it.

10. Demanding more than he can afford
Women are mostly not demanding on their own but get easily influenced by what they see outside and may start demanding the same from their partners.

Demanding more than your partner can afford will only serve as a deterrent and will drive him away. Try to be contented with what he has to offer and support him to grow so he can provide more for you.

Men are like mirrors and will easily reciprocate what is thrown at them. Positive behaviours and attitudes breed even more positive behaviour and actions from your partner.

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IKONO PDP STAKEHOLDERS ISSUE WARNING ON 2023 IKONO/INI FEDERAL CONSTITUENCY SEAT

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•••caution party faithful against heating up the polity

Ikono PDP stakeholders under the aegis of Forum of Ward Chairmen have condemned in strong terms, attempts by some politicians within and outside Ikono/Ini Federal Constituency to heat up the polity, create tension and cause unrest in the ahead of the 2023 House of Representatives seat.

This position was made known in a communique issued by the forum titled, “Purported Position Paper in respect of Ikono/Ini House of Representatives seat”.

The Forum, in particular, dissociated itself and condemned in its entirety from the discrete schemes of Barr. Moses Akpan, the State Organising Secretary of the Party, to cause confusion aimed at overheating the polity for his selfish interest while warning woe-mongers to desist from commercializing/dropping the Governor’s name over trivial issues.

As custodians of the party at the grassroots in the federal constituency, the forum noted that they had not been consulted, nor witnessed or heard of any zoning arrangement between the two sister LGAs regarding the House of Representatives seat, stressing that since 1999, they had witnessed aspirants from the two sister Local Government Areas keenly contesting for the ticket within and without the PDP.

They sued for all inclusiveness in decisions concerning the elections, particularly in the build-up to the forthcoming 2023 General elections in order to safeguard and guarantee elections success for the Party. Furthermore, they pledged their unalloyed loyalty to Governor Udom Emmanuel, the leader of the party and their commitment to the actualization of his completion agenda.

In a related development, Barr Goddy Umoh, the Secretary of Ikono Leadership Council as well as the Chapter Youth Leader of the Party, Mr David Idiong, have both disclaimed the inclusion of their names in the said publication by few persons in Ikono.

They have stated categorically that there was no such meeting held by Ikono Leadership Council to discuss the issue of zoning of Ikono/Ini House of Representatives seat.

Barr Umoh stressed that there is no concensus where only 10 out of 20 members of any forum are in agreement, advising all those involved to focus on the completion and succession agenda of the Governor, Mr Udom Gabriel Emmanuel, rather than heating up the politics of the area.

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AKANIMO UDOFIA: THE PROSPERITY MODEL THAT WILL JUDGE US SANE AND THOUGHTFUL

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~ Akpan Jimmy

With the 2023 gubernatorial fever permeating further, the lead conversation has remained who will carry on with the task of leading Akwa Ibom State to the desired Eldorado, where we would have taken our rightful place in the comity of states designed to lead the nation’s socioeconomic and political rebirth. Daunting but achievable if people think assuming political positions less a birthright than a call to service, as the former will ruin our chances at clearly marshalling out what ideas should guide our sojourn; conscious that by the expiration of the current administration, we would have between 1999-2023 passed through the hands of two consummate professionals and a flamboyant politician as Governors.

A time to do more than excuses, this clearly would be especially as our democracy can no longer be termed nascent. Whether for reflection or repentance, it time we considered what and who, going forward should carry our mandate, and show class dispassion to ideologies of personal benefits to help the state leverage on our collective resolve for better days. In stating the obvious, we have tasted a bite of different models of leadership and are ripe for a hybrid deal of settling for a fellow who fits perfectly in the bill of professionalism, politics and community spiritedness, which are values that present the Nsit Ibom born oil and gas maverick and CEO of Desicon Group, Mr. Akanimo Udofia ahead of the pack.

Having in line missed several such opportunities, it will be unexplainable walking the street of missed opportunities again at a time the rest of the world have defined hope as good governance and climes other than ours celebrating such advantage of being able to recognize eggheads in leadership. There may be arguments on who deserves the Hilltop sit, but nobody at this point can truly guarantee that our next pick will not be a joker, but with Akanimo Udofia resides several bright shades of an enviable future, gleaning from successes he has in the last over two decades achieved around the globe, even in terrains considered as unfamiliar and hostile.

Attempting a mention of his feat at the helm of affairs of the Desicon Group is a valid testimony to the degree of ingenuity that sits on his shoulders, having taken the over four decade firm in the last two decades to enviable heights of global reckoning. In discussing his successes with Desicon, note must be taken that a number of people adjudged as successful made their mark working on projects and establishments they were never conferred the highest managerial roles. Whether it is about the Engineering or oil and gas fronts, mediocrity has nothing on Udofia who is committed to meeting clients’ needs through the most cost effective solutions; investing in the right minds for optimum results. Without delving into the thickness of his financial armour, Akanimo’s Forbes listing and several reputable recognitions are no consolation for nothing; but medals of his depth, reach and touch on the global entrepreneurial turf.

The ability to run the venture afloat, hitting plausible milestones is an affirmation that he will do better if handed more responsibilities; no one has ever built materials without the corresponding ability to build people, this is where divinity puts him forward as Akwa Ibom’s best bet. The ability to show empathy has never been so easy with businessmen, but for him, there are no holds barred with shading a piece of him to provide warmth for others. Little wonder how he has been able to carry on with fiscal responsibilities to his employers and even employing more at a time other competitors are laying off, to get reprieve from the prevailing inclement economic weather.

With less than two years to the 2023 elections, it is only Akan Udofia who has been able to marshal out what an idea of post Governor Udom Emmanuel governance should pattern after. Carefully leaning on his exposure and contact in the global market space, one has no doubt that the Desicon Boss will thoughtfully deploy all of his experiences to foster an economic base that will commensurate with citizens expectations across board. Truth be told, none of our socioeconomic challenges could be traced to him, but his stepping forward to the task of finding solutions goes beyond a heroic move to paint a future generations after us would not fail to appreciate.

With the current downward economic trend, Statista is projecting that Nigeria’s inflation by 2023 will be pegged at around 12.5%, while the Federal Government has benchmarked crude oil at forty dollar per barrel in its Medium Term Expenditure Framework and Fiscal Strategy paper for 2021-2023. These figures in the light of worsening national security and recurrent political suspicion promise little or no bliss and reminds of the urgency of settling for a leader who is home with managing men and resources; a fellow with Udofia’s velve and depth who will explore our boundless opportunities to keep us afloat if economic darkness ever threatens further.

Beyond oil, Akanimo understands ahead of time the prospects agriculture and tourism hold for Akwa Ibom and will invest more than a passing interest at getting the state take benefit from these global cash cow; a departure from the moon tales diversification our leaders have for far too long preached, without an iota of political will in getting to work. For this scion of Udofia’s dynasty firing from all cylinders to get agriculture working goes beyond food sufficiency, to stringing together all the comparative value we can derive from our agricultural ventures so we just do not exist as a consuming economy.

Considering the advantages of having agrobase industries to process and add value to our agricultural product is a possibility that perfectly sits on his plans, he is about the most refined mind that can pull together key players in the global food processing space to invest in Akwa Ibom. This for our farmers will birth a huge relief and stretch the current administration’s food policy beyond sufficiency to gainful storage and viability, so our farmers, like in other climes can enjoy the economic leap that is deserving of their efforts, while our state will be spared the shock of regional food cuts associated with local politics.

On tourism, he recently as a keynote speaker at a tourism stakeholders event proved his mettle as one who can develop a workable model in tourism appreciation to foster Akwa Ibom’s chances at changing the national tourism outlook. Armed with the intrigues of advancing a narrative that will make the state a cynosure for the global community, Akan is set to get the ball rolling. This he expressed in parts of his speech when he said “If I were just to mention a few of the unique qualities of tourism that excites me, first would be tourism’s high human and social development premium, especially catering for lower income earners, while the promotion of a vibrant, dynamic, and competitive economy that allows everyone equal opportunity will follow”.

The Desicon Boss will emerge as the strongest unifying factor in Akwa ibom’s political firmament, as he currently enjoys massive support, patronage and following across every political strata of the state. Given the PDP ticket he will scale up the party’s political fortune as he would sweat the party a lot less getting the needed popular support. More to his massive acceptance, it is common knowledge that in a political space where people barely get expressive, it is only Akanimo who has summed sufficient courage to put forward a foot for the Akwa Ibom plum job. This courage better defines capacity and readiness; pointing him as one who is mentally, morally, politically and economically ready for the deal, instead of join the band wagon of those still looking up to possible endorsement by some power circles.

Make no mistake about his resolve, 2023 politics with Akan Udofia has been more deliberate and definitive, going ahead of others to marshal out strategies and political structures while others have turned political aspiration to mathematical equations, where “x” the unknown variable must always be found. Unlike in mathematics, no succession deal without a workable manifesto should deserve the peoples attention, as we must roundly reject sacred cows in all forms and colours, if Akwa Ibom must be free from old chains. It will not be an easy push, but no sacrifice will be too much if we must build a society our children will be spared the wrath of our misadventure and greed.

Loyalty is no commodity found among cheap people, Akan has been tested on loyalty and proven fit as fiddle. On the line of business, friendship, politics and family, he has proven himself a loyal member of every circle he finds himself; as there is actually more loyalty to pay in the global business space where ingenuity, integrity and character does the game. A bankable virtue, Udofia’s loyalty is also palpable in the way he relates with family, friends and people who cannot reward his good deeds. In leadership he will definitely show the people all the loyalty a Governor should give, this would birth an era of mutual trust and shared prosperity.

In conclusion, mentioning his numerous infrastructural and social interventions would have better revealed the heart in the man, but the list will not only be endless, but would have betrayed the anonymity behind most of these interventions. Howbeit, there will be no harm in mentioning an event of the recent past, where a young job seeker, Iniubong Umoren was murdered; the rage, anger and rhetoric that followed is still fresh. It is worthy to conclude that till date Akanimo Udofia who offered a job to one of Iniubong’s sibling at Desicon Engineering, remains the only practical effort any politician or businessman made at extending succor to the family in their moment of grief; which has been widely celebrated, heralded and commended.

We have but this chance to get it all right; Akanimo Udofia is capable of opening our state to endless opportunities that will hand the citizenry a leadership that is both rewarding and consoling, if we will allow good conscience and patriotism guide our hearts to support the Akwa Ibom Prosperity Movement.

Akpan Jimmy is an Uyo based Writer and Political Analyst

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THE 2023 THAT SUNDAY MBANG WANTS FOR AKWA IBOM

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George Lincoln Rockwell an American neo-Nazi politician said “It is not the evil itself which is horrifying about our times, it is the way we not only tolerate evil,

but have made a cult of positively worshipping weakness, depravity,
rottenness and evil itself.

With recent attacks on the personality of Dr. Sunday Mbang, a former President of Christian Association of Nigeria, CAN, and retired Prelate of Methodist Church of Nigeria on social media space because of his stands against cultism, one would wonder if this is truly a Christian state where everyone lifts up holy hands every Sunday.

Prelate Mbang had in a recent press interview said that cultists have no place in the state as far as Governance is concerned. Following his meeting with 13 aspirants, he announced that all those seeking the office of the Governor should publicly condemn cultism.

The admonition by the revered cleric seems not to go down well with some persons in the State. In apparent display of rejection of the cleric’s anti cultism statement, these folks have rather chosen to make derogatory comments about the man of God. I

Prelate Mbang who is over 85 years of age stands to gain little of nothing directly in the political activities of the state. In other climes people who are opinion moulders like him are treated as oracles, his opinion on choosing a Godly servant leader should be aplauded rather than antagonized. If our state is named after God , we as a people should be closer to God and also be eager to condemn cultism in its totality rather than condemn the man of God for Speaking against cultism.

Recently, a secondary school boy was expelled for cult related activities which led to destruction of school properties.
Nwaniba axis was hard hit with several cult clashes which made residents living in and around the environs and other road users plying that route to face undesirable consequences.

One can only imagine how worst it would have been if Governor Emmanuel didn’t proscribe cultism related activities. Having this pocket of cult activities under the watch of a man fighting cultism frontally, we can only prepare for the worst when the state is handled by one glossing over cultism.

In the biblical days, people like Prophet Nathan, Samuel, Isaiah, who were oracles of God condemned ills boldly irrespective of those involved.
If King Saul, David, Jeroboam could be confronted for disobeying God then nobody is too big to be confronted by a man of God.

It is very exceptional in our clime that we have such a revered personality Dr Sunday Mbang who speaks without bulging.
For people who may not understand, in the hey days of the military junta when people were afraid to speak up to the authoritiesg for fear of being killed, it was people like Papa Mbang who muscled up the courage to speak to Power.

This earned him the position of President of World Methodist Council, the first African to be so elevated to such an exalted position.

We should be precise about what we want. We are talking about handing over the fate of over 7.5 million people residing in Akwa Ibom for the next four years or more.

A playback of what transpired in this state before 2015 should not be allowed to repeat, with the peace we have enjoyed so far under the current leadership.

Global Pilot Newspaper thinks that those seeking to govern the state in 2023 should rather hand themselves to the very people they seek to govern for public scrutiny. They should unveil their agenda to the people, rather than recruiting their boys to launch veiled attacks on the person of Dr. Mbang and his team of ‘Father’s of Faith’. It makes no sense for supporters of the respective Governorship aspirants to be uncouth in their responses to the cleric’s position on the qualities expected of who should take over from Governor Udom Emmanuel in 2023.

Is it not pre-prosperous that people are bothering themselves more on justifying cultism rather than setting agenda for people they may wish to support?.

This Newspaper wishes to suggest that as people who will bear the glory of the next administration, we should be more concerned about accentuating on the agenda before the next Governor, beyond cultism, kidnapping, criminality, and traits tendencies.

Antecedents should be very much in consideration since the votes of the electorates will count in the election come 2023. During the last election all their machinations, vices, the Warsaw saw War, political ramblings, didn’t work. Beyond cultism, other criminal antecedents should be very much in contention since it is obvious the votes of the people would count.

Akwa Ibom people are more enlightened and they know what they want, but certainly not a cultist. Since the state belongs to God His will alone must prevail.

*SOURCE: Global Pilot Newspaper Editorial, July 19, 2021,*

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