By Osondu Ahirika
Marriage will remain a topical issue in our world. So many young and eligible persons are unable to settle down because many artificial obstacles undermines their psychology and prevents them from crossing the Rubicon of wedlock. Let us search the scriptures and dissect some of those reasons, many remain single despite the wish to marry.
YOU DON’T CONSIDER A LOW KEY WEDDING.
“When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.”
The only wedding ceremony recorded in scripture which Jesus attended was not a fairy tale style celebrity wedding. In fact, it was one that suffered lack. There wasn’t even enough drinks. Yet the wedding was done.
Our egos are so large that, many feel it is an abomination to have a low key wedding.
Do you know that, some weddings take place with fifty or less invited guests and family?
How about considering performing, either of, the traditional or White wedding, or even combining both same day? Cost cutting measures if considered, will serve many aspiring couples. Close your ears to what people will say or that they will mock you.
YOUR PARENTS HAVE MADE THE ASKING PRICE SCARY AND YOU ARE QUIET
” So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.
When Jacob wanted to marry his heartthrob Rachel, Laban, his would – be father In-law, made it difficult for him. Thank God Jacob had all the love and stamina to go through the (14 years in all) hard labour to get his choice wife.
These days, some parents and families have made the dowry and marriage demands so cumbersome that, it scares suitors away. If you are from such families, it’s high time you cry out against this situation.
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REFUSAL TO MARRY SOMEONE BENEATH YOUR STATUS
“His name was Nabal and his wife’s name was Abigail.She was an intelligent and beautiful woman, but her husband was surly and mean in his dealings—he was a Caleb item. 1 Samuel 25:3
How many educated women will settle for an illiterate man who genuinely loves them and proposes and vice versa? How many women will not consider themselves too beautiful and high flying to get down with a less endowed man? Abigail did it. Scripture says she even knew her husband is a fool (1 Samuel 25;25)
yet she married him and covered his shortcoming. Will you do that?
“We have a little sister, And she has no breasts; What shall we do for our sister On the day when she is spoken for? – Songs of Solomon 8:8
Breast in a woman is symbolic of maturity. People who are physically, spiritually and socially immature stay single as nobody will approach them for serious relationships. Your dressing, the way you speak and how you relate with others say a lot about how people rate you. Do you dress like a club girl even while eyeing marriage and how about the circle of friends you associate with? Of course, if you are idle, that means you have no breast and you are financially or economically immature. Emotional maturity also matters. Think on these things and see for yourself if you are still immature. Do not stay idle. Get a job or learn a trade. Engage people in courteous and productive ways. You are 30 or above and you are still clubbing, playing big boy or girl in the area, my dear you have no ‘breast’.
INABILITY TO RELINQUISH YOUR IDENTITY AND ACCEPT WOULD BE IN- LAWS
But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your family God will be my God – Ruth 1:16
Learn from Ruth. You are in a relationship, but you can’t stand the parents or siblings of your fiancee. Let me ask you ; what makes you good for marriage.
You already see your would be parents in law as a witch or wizard. You are not prepared to cut your attachments to your roots and assimilate your new home and become one with your husband and his community. What recommends you for wedlock? It doesn’t mean you reject or forget your people, but you must find that balance in acknowledging you now have a new life. Your loyalty and love is for your husband and new family, much as you cherish yours.
DESPISING SMALL BEGINNING
“Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.” Zechariah 4:10
Many of us feel that one must have every comfort conceivable to start a marriage. Ladies want, what they call, a ‘ready made’ Man and men feel inadequate if they don’t have everything before considering marriage. That is an error.
God himself rejoices to see little beginnings. “Though your beginning be small”, God assures,” your latter days shall be greatly increased(Job 8:7).”
REVERSAL OF ROLES
“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.” – Proverbs 18:22
Parents make a great mistake in putting a female child under pressure.” Go and look for a husband ”, you will hear some parents scream on their girls. Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. A girl pressuring a man for marriage demeans and makes her look desperate. Like Isaiah 4:1, speaks of desperate women in end time. It turns men off no matter how much they love you. Let the man do the asking please. It also includes acting like the head over the man in a relationship or a man behaving like a spineless female.
PLAYING ‘SLAY QUEEN’ AND COHABITATION
“The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” – John 4:18
You fancy yourself as the ultimate ‘slay queen’, whatever that means to the new age, so you flip from one relationship into another. Sooner than later, everyman in town would have had you and the notoriety will follow you. Be decisive with who you want to stick with. It applies to both sexes.
The worse version is cohabitation. Living with a man who is not your husband prolongs your single status. Nobody will buy the cow, if he is getting the milk, beef and hide, free of charge. Think deeply about it.
NOT HAVING A MENTOR OR COUNSELOR
” Esther had not revealed her nationality and family background, because Mordecai had forbidden her to do so. 11 Every day he walked back and forth near the courtyard of the harem to find out how Esther was and what was happening to her” .-Esther 2:10
Mordechai was a mentor to Esther. As beautiful and endowed as she was, she needed and relied on his superior experience and counsel, to win the heart of the king and become his bride. The same role Naomi played for Ruth to marry Boaz.
You should look for a responsible counselor, your Pastor or his wife or a father /mother figure for guidance on dealing with issues about your marriage aspirations and relationship. Be careful however with who you believe and confide in.
NOT DEFINING THE GOAL OF THE RELATIONSHIP
“When John, who was in prison, heard about the deeds of the Messiah, he sent his disciples, ask him, ‘are you the one we are expecting or should we wait for another” John 11:2
You have been in a relationship for years, and you don’t know what will happen or where the relationship is headed. That is being dumb. You are above thirty and you are still comfortable being called,’ a chic’, ‘my Bae’, whatever, my dear you are the problem.
Define the relationship and know what you are into and see if it is what you want. Ask him or her, if he or her is the one. There is no harm in knowing. Rather, it will help you moving forward.
Seadogs urges federl govt to declare herdsmen terrorists
The Nigerian Association of Seadogs, also known as Pyrates, has called on the Federal Government to declare and treat herdsmen in the country as terrorists.
The group explained that declaring cattle herders in Nigeria terrorists had become imperative following their activities that had led to the death of scores of Nigerians.
NAS President, Arthur Boje, who made the call during a medical outreach organised by the association at Oro-Ochiri community in Rebisi town, Port Harcourt, Rivers State, said herdsmen were also responsible for the sacking of some communities in the country.
The medical outreach was part of the association’s programme to mark its Quarter 2 Pyrates Working Committee meeting.
Boje said, “We are not happy with the killings going on in parts of the country. There is no way you will be satisfied when your brothers and sisters are killed senselessly and the government is not doing enough to save the situation.
“What those herdsmen are doing is orchestrated. It is tactically planned. These are people that have infiltrated into the country, aided by some people on the ground and also sponsored by people here.
“They are terrorists and the Federal Government should treat them as such. They are not herdsmen; they are professional killers brought from outside into the country to cause havoc.”
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Pastor Adeboye is not God – Barr Inibehe Effiong
Outspoken Lagos based lawyer blast critics again
If you want to incur the maximum wrath of a typical Nigerian, speak against his General Overseer or Daddy GO (spiritual leader) or his political leader. The way these religious leaders are venerated gives the impression that God has Nigerian pastors as deputies, who can command the day to turn to night.
Some people are incandescent with rage over my response to Pastor Adeboye’s scandalous involvement in the foundation stone laying ceremony of the so-called international worship centre initiated by governor Udom Emmanuel.
The Chairman of the Akwa Ibom State House of Assembly Committee on Information, Mr. Ime Okon, stated that the project will cost N10 billion.
Some commentators felt that I should have insulated Daddy Adeboye from my “furious commentary”. I couldn’t have excused the role of the head of the Redeemed Christian Church. He is part of the shenanigans.
Those who are conversant with Akwa Ibom know that Adeboye is a regular guest of governor Udom Emmanuel. It is deceitful for some people to pretend that Adeboye’s ill-motivated action was isolated. We need to know the interest of Adeboye in Akwa Ibom State?
Adeboye cannot be going about giving false legitimacy to the brazen criminality and atrocious actions and policies of the Akwa Ibom State Governor and expect some of us to salute him simply because he is venerated by his members and followers. It cannot work that way.
The prophets of old, the Biblical prophets who served the living God, were never accustomed to wining and dining with political leaders, especially corrupt and bad leaders. On the contrary, they were known for speaking truth to power and delivering blistering messages to the Kings and the people to repent of their evil ways.
Prophets Nehemiah, Isaiah, Jeremiah, Ezekiel were not friends of Kings. These were men that God used to deliver strong messages to corrupt leaderships.
Remember Prophet Nathan who stopped King David from building a Temple and rejected his bribes? God is not mocked. The God who called Prophet Nathan is still God and Has not changed.
Today, corrupt politicians depend largely on our Daddy GOs to validate their imbecilic, despotic and corrupt actions. Let Pastor Adeboye stay away from the government of Akwa Ibom State. As long as he continues to dance with people like Udom Emmanuel, some of us will continue to take him to the cleaners.
Adeboye is not God, at least not my God. Those invoking curses over my viral article should know that I am not perturbed in any way. Only God Almighty can determine my life on this earth. Jesus Christ was repeatedly challenged in the Temple and He never invoked death on His critics.
Stop telling me about the “touch not my prophet” scripture. You cannot appropriate the scripture selfishly the way you like. Let Adeboye demonstrate to some of us with his actions that he is the Lord’s anointed and the Lord’s prophet by emulating the prophets of old.
As a citizen of Nigeria, I will continue to express myself on issues that affects me no matter whose ox is gored. We will never be intimidated.
The revolution will continue.
FARMERS-HERDSMEN CLASHES AND THE NEED TO THINK OUT OF THE BOX
It is becoming clearer by the day, that the Nigerian government headed by President Mohammadu Buhari is a basket case. The Presidency has woefully failed in its core constitutional responsibility to protect the lives and properties of Nigerians. This is due largely to the refusal of the President and Commander-in-chief of the Armed Forces of the Federal Repubublic of Nigeria, the Chief Security Officer of the Federation to effectively confront and tackle the criminal activities of the dreaded Miyetti Allah Cattle Breeders Association for the overall good of the country.
Miyetti Allah Cattle Breeders Association is the group that is responsible for the genocide that is currently going on in the country especially in the the middle belt region and some parts of Southern Nigeria. The association is made up of militant Fulani herdsmen from the Northern part of the country, a group that has been named by The Global Terrorism Index as the fourth deadliest terror group in the world. 95 percent of their attacks target private citizens, reflecting the group’s primary concern over the ownership of farmlands.
In spite of the unremitting calls by concerned citizens of the country, on the government to arrest, investigate and prosecute the leaders of this group, who openly admitted to the killings in Benue State, the President is studiedly dillydallying on it for reasons best known to him and thereby indicted himself of having compromised the security of Nigerians.
As a result of the studied silence and inaction on the part of the President, who is of the fulani extraction and who also has a verifiable historical antecedents of being an ethnic bigot, so many people in the country especially the Christians are of the opinion that President Buhari has an agenda of islamizing the whole country and this line of thinking is strengthened against the backdrop that all the security arms and agencies in the country are headed by the Fulani moslems, the Northerners, in flagrant violation of Section 14 of the 1999 Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (As Amended ).
Section 14 (3) of the Constitution provides thus: ” The Composition of the Federation or any of its agencies and the conduct of its affairs shall be carried out in a such a manner as to reflect the federal character of Nigeria and the need to promote national unity, and also to command national loyalty, thereby ensuring that there shall be no pre-dominance of persons from a few state or from a few ethnic or sectional groups in that Government or any of its agencies.” This is a provision of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria which the president swore to uphold. This violation, an impeachable offence is curiously overlooked by the National Assembly.
The federal government in contradistinction to its responsibilities is rather mounting pressure and arm- twisting the state governments and seeking to grab land from them for the purpose of establishing cattle colonies for agricultural development, which responsibility is clearly within the purview of the various state governments.
In the context of Nigerian federalism, Exclusive Legislative List is the list on which matters over which only the federal government can legislate are enumerated. This is contained in Part 1 of the Second Schedule of the 1999 Constitution. There are 68 of such matters.
Concurrent Legislative List on the other hand implies the list that bears the matters over which both the federal and state governments can exercise legislative authorities. It is contained in Part 2 of the same Second Schedule of the 1999 Constitution.
Items 17 – 20 of the Concurrent Legislative List provides for Industrial, Commercial or Agricultural Development. For the purpose of clarification, I reproduce the aforementioned provisions thus:
17. The National Assembly may make laws for the Federation or any part thereof with respect to-
(a) the health, safety and welfare of person employed to work in factories, offices or other premises or in inter-state transportation and commerce including the training, supervision and qualification of such persons;
(b) the regulation of ownership and control of business enterprises throughout the Federation for the purpose of promoting, encouraging or facilitating such ownership and control by citizens of Nigeria;
(c) the establishment of research centres for agricultural studies; and
(d) the establishment of institutions and bodies for the promotion or financing of industrial, commercial or agricultural projects.
18. Subject to the provisions of this Constitution a House of Assembly may make Laws for that State with respect to industrial, commercial or agricultural development of the State.
19. Nothing in the foregoing paragraphs of this item shall be construed as precluding a House of Assembly from making Laws with respect to any of the matters referred to in the foregoing paragraphs.
20. For the purposes of the foregoing paragraphs of this item, the word “agricultural” includes fishery.
From the clear wordings of the paragraphs above on these items, it could be seen that matters pertaining to agricultural development are the exclusive preserve of the various state governments and the federal government therefore has no business with agricultural development except the establishment of research centres, institutions and bodies for the purposes of promoting or financing industrial, commercial or agricultural projects and so far, there are no conflicting laws of the federal and state governments in this respect for one to argue and insist that the law of the federal government should supersede and prevail. From the foregoing, it stands to reason also that the yearly allocations in the federal budget for livestock development are always in error and an advertisement of the state of impoverishment of the knowledge of the laws of the country on the part of those charged with the responsibility of making the budget.
Additionally, the federal government doesn’t own any land for the purpose of establishing cattle colonies for Fulani Cattle Breeders. The only land owned by the federal government and which undoubtedly is not for agricultural development is all the land within the 100 metres limit of the 1967 shoreline and all land reclaimed near the lagoon, sea or ocean in or bordering Nigeria, as provided by the LANDS ( TITLE VESTING, ETC) ACT OF 1993. Other than this land, every land comprised in the territory of every state is vested in the Governor of that state. The various state governments in that wise will be in order to establish cattle colonies or ranches for interested cattle rearers in their states.
Cattle rearing and business should not be seen or taken and can never ever be the exclusivity of the Fulanis. If anything, it shouldn’t even be their vocations as long as they can not afford to have fodder all year round in their capacities for their cattle.
I am bewildered that the President and his Minister for Agriculture and Rural Development have refused to understand that Cattle rearing is a private business, that anyone with the requisite interest, knowledge and resources can freely venture into it, the same way one can engage in arable farming, vegetable farming, fruit farming, pig and poultry farming. These farmers do it on their private capacities and it is nonsensical to give the Fulanis herdsmen any preferential treatment simply because they are terrorists. They should rather be treated as terrorists and not pampered.
All hail the Land Use Act. By its Section 1, all land comprised in the territory of each state of the Federation of Nigeria is vested solely in the Governor of the state and not President Buhari nor Mr Audu Ogbeh. The Governor holds such land in trust for the people. He is responsible for the allocation of land in all urban areas to individuals resident in the state and to organizations for residential, agricultural, commercial and other purposes while similar powers are with respect to non-urban areas conferred on the Local Governments. The Act also makes provision to the effect that there can not be any compulsory acquisition of land except same is required for overriding public interest and such interest must be for the public purpose which include exclusive Government Use or general public use. It also include purposes in connection with economic, industrial or agricultural development,See Section 51 of the Act.
It is not in doubt therefore that the proposal by the federal government to open cattle colonies in parts of the Federation amounts to executive lawlessness. It is trite law that where the executive acts without the backing of the law, and such acts which are actions or omissions are ultra vires the Constitution.
I am sure there is no President except President Buhari and no State Governor except the likes of Governor Bello of Kogi State that can consciously cede any part of its territory to a terrorist group that is openly spitting fire and talking tough all the time.
The various state governments should be abreast with the laws of the land and also brace up to defend their territories against these invading terrorists in the guise of cattle rearers. The State Governors as the Chief Security Officers of their states have every right to defend their territories. The soldiers have refused to help, they are now used as security guards and toll collectors manning roadblocks in the Southern part of the country. The policemen are raring and fast turning themselves into loaders at the motor parks. What a colourful shame!
If the government is sincere and must succeed in its drive to diversify the economy, it is high time some form of Farmers Defence and Security Guards were set up. Such formations would not be in contravention to Section 214 of the 1999 Constitution. That provision of the Constitution doesn’t preclude the state governments from setting up security agencies in the similitude of the Police, provided it is not a Police Force. Section 214 (1) only provides that: “There shall be a Police Force for Nigeria, which shall be known as the Nigeria Police Force, and subject to the provisions of this section no other police force shall be established for the Federation or any part thereof.” If Section 214 of the Constitution doesn’t preclude the establishment of Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps because the Corps is not seen as a Police Force which it is not, then something in the similitude of the NSCDC could be established by the various state governments to defend the farmer population in cases of threat to their lives and properties.
The Act establishing the NSCDC in its Section 3 provides for the functions of the Corps. Section 3 provides : “The Corps shall-
(a) assist in the maintenance of peace and order and in the protection and rescuing of the Civil Population during the period of emergency”, and its Section 29 defines ” Period of emergency” to include any period of disorder or unrest and environmental or structural disaster.
In these days of unprovoked attacks against the farming communities, with such violence that causes reasonable apprehension of death and grievous bodily harm, in addition to criminal trespass and malicious damage to farmlands, farm settlements and farm produce, it is absolutely necessary and incumbent on the various state governments to rethink self-preservation for these farmers. The doctrine of self-defence is applicable in our criminal jurisprudence and the law is trite that a man about to be attacked does not have to wait for his assailant to strike the first blow or fire the first shot, circumstances may justify a pre-emptive strike. Under the Common Law, the courts have equated the defence of others with the prevention of crimes. The courts in this regard have held for instance that a woman would be justified in using reasonable force when it was necessary to do so in defence of her sister, not because they were sisters but because ” there is a general liberty as between strangers to prevent a felony.”
Under the Nigerian Criminal Code, whenever it is lawful for any person to use force in any degree for the purpose of defending himself against an assault, it is lawful for any other person acting in good faith in his aid to use a like degree of force for the purpose of defending such first-mentioned person. Self-defence is the use of force to protect oneself, one’s family, or one’s property including farmlands, farm settlements and farm produce from real or threatened attack.
The state governors in equipping the officers and men of such outfits for the purpose of carrying out their functions, may require to invent and use some other farm tools and implements in addition to the usual farm tools or other mechanical tools of some other nature which may come within the definition of a firearm, in respect of such other tools in order to fall within the exemption envisaged by Section 37 (c) of The FIREARMS ACT, LFN, CAP F28, 2004.
It is high time the various state governments rose up to the defence of their territories as the Chief Security Officers of their various states and the time to act is now.
Uyoakam Ekerete, Esq