have heard many ladies telling themselves this guy deserves you, he is
calm, handsome, caring. This doesn’t deserve you, he is only a player,
once he enters you that is the end.
I will not say the assertion
is true or false, possibly they have heard about the guy from someone or
they are the direct source that couldn’t open up (Some girls cannot
even be truthful to their best friend you know?.
Here are five
things you need to do to be able to know if he is the right or he is the
player “if” you desire a serious relationship:
1. Know his background
Don’t be deceived that background doesn’t matter for you to know if he will deserve you or not.
Some people, not just the guys but the girls too are the picture of what their background is.
Some are used to cheating because it is what their parent do for living.
Some that are raised by just the father due to betrayal on the part of
the woman may have poisoned the mind of the guy that what his mum did is
the reflection of what other women outside are.
The lady that
grew under the training of just her mum after divorce due to the fact
that the husband usually abuse her not just physically but emotionally
most times build the lady to be mean to guys with the mindset that all
men are equal.
I am not saying that is how everyone in such
situation thinks, some of them do this and it affects the guy or the
lady that they will not want to fall in same trap as the one shared by
their source or that they experienced.
2. Ask about him
Starting a relationship goes beyond just accepting everyone that comes
your way without knowing about that person himself even after you have
known about the background because most times some guys have good
parents and they are trained well but get it wrong the moment they mixed
with others without good training.
It is good to make inquiries about him from those around him and make some conclusions through things you see around him.
You might have heard so many times that appearance is reality, believe
me, many things we see physically are the truth in many cases.
3. Watch is attitude when it comes to money and you
This is almost general among guys, that women are moved by money,
especially when they want to start a relationship with a lady.
The moment his attitude is showing you that money is what you need, you need to be watchful.
The truth is that some of this guys have had experiences with other
girls, they know a lot about girls, unfortunately, it is the bad things
they know about them, hence, they categorize you under them and will
want to entice you with it.
The moment you notice this from
someone who is just asking you out you need to be extra careful and need
to prove to him you are not the type.
4. His history relationship-wise
The truth is that many history makes the future. Except from those that
are yet to be in a relationship before, you need to know the reason for
breakup of the previous relationship.
The history is very essential as it makes you know the type of person you are in a relationship with.
Someone who cannot tell you the truth about his past relationship needs proper check before you accept his proposal.
I know some men can lie, however, as a woman you know how to get he
truth of any situation when it comes to a man you want to know about,
5. Give him a trial
Even after you have done all the above, giving him the chance to prove himself is very essential.
For many guys if you don’t try them out you may not know if he deserves you or just another player.
The background might be deceitful, the friends he flocks with might
just be bad while he is the good egg, don’t forget, your appearance in
his life might even take him out of their midst finally.
His history might also have gone through another series of scrutinisation which might have changed him for better.
Judging him with some of those things above might be deceitful, but one
thing is very certain, dating someone who you have not really known
before for a more than a year or less can open your eyes to everything
you need to know about him.
So many guys cannot hide their
behavior for even a week let alone a month, but if you don’t give them a
trial you may not be able to know the reality of any man.
Many from good homes have even failed when you thought they should be better.
Some will fall to the temptations that stairs on their face and all,
without trying him out you may not know if he is the right or wrong.
Judging one with the other will not also be the best until you try another as we can never be the same.
Like my religious leaders and brethren will say “prayer is the key”,
prayer is very essential for guidance so as not to fall into wrong
Don’t forget, the bad guys also have lovers, but if you are a good one your goodness or prayer can lead you to the right one
Amaechi Vows To Release Names Of Those Sabotaging Security
Minister of Transportation, Rotimi Amaechi has said that cabals are frustrating the recently approved $198m maritime security contract.
Amaechi vowed to publicly mention names of saboteurs while speaking at a Maritime Stakeholders’ Interactive Forum held in Warri, Delta State on Thursday.
He said “Reason, why vessels will not come to the Eastern ports, is because there is war insurance due to insecurity in the ports here.
“The war insurance means if the goods cost N10,000 in Lagos, it will cost N20,000 here because there is an extra cost on it due to Insecurity issues. Even as a minister, I can’t enter a boat ride from Warri to Port Harcourt due to insecurity issues, but I can move around Lagos at any time of the day.
“I once asked a former Governor of Anambra State, Peter Obi, why people from Anambra don’t import from Port Harcourt port, and he said it cost less to import from Lagos and move to Onitsha even with the price they pay on the road. It is cheaper to import from Lagos to Aba, yet Aba to Port Harcourt is a 30-minute drive.
“For shipowners, you need to do a petition to Mr President. The President approved a contract of $195m for maritime security, but there are people in the system sabotaging the contract because it will restore security in the water. I won’t say who they are until it gets out of control. We are still battling for the contract to take place, but if it gets out of place, we will name them publicly, including the security people involved.
“There are people who make billions of Dollars from the insecurity on the water, so they don’t want security on the water because if we secure the water, all their rubbish will go.
“There are businesses which provide the vessel for oil companies in the name of providing security. The moment we secure the water, they are out of jobs?
Prison Officer Brutalizes Son, Injures Him For Playing Football (Graphic)
According to a photographer who shared photos of a teenage boy brutalized by his father, almost went into coma after he sustained a deep injury on his head, just for playing football.
The Nigerian Prisons staff beats his son from 7:00pm till 2:30 am, says report.
See what the photographer/Instagram user wrote..
This happened at Oluwatedo area of Ibadan, Mr Adepoju Biodun is married with three kids,he works with Nigerian prison service Agodi,ibadan.his eldest child is Israel, On 16th February 2018 Israel went to play football and after the football his father beat him from 7:00pm till 2:30am in the early hours of Saturday till he sustained a deep cut on his head with blood everywhere in the house.his the appropriate way to correct or chastise our child. This is beyond chastisement. Israel was beaten to coma before he was later rushed to Don Bosco specialist hospital Ogungbade. I will soon upload the surface area of the deep cut as soon as they open it.his siblings also tolu and praise served severe punishment, they were relieved as soon as Israel was rushed to the hospital. Please share until the appropriate authorities sees this especially Nigerian prisons, UNICEF. #UNICEF #law #crazyfather #ibadan #opayemioludayo
#tolanialli #bayoomoboriowo #michaelomoboriowophotography #ajimobi #florenceajimobi #lawyer #nigerianprison #nigerianprison #freshfm #splashfm #inspirationfm
Beating for your son for playing football? My God.
Someone please remind him how much Neymar is worth per week!!! Kaii
There is another angle to look at this… No father in his right mind would do this to his own son!!! This is a clear case MENTAL ILLNESS/TRUMA probably due to the nature of his work. I am not a psychologist but I know in that in Nigeria we lack the culture of looking out for the signs of mental fatigue amongst our workers in all sector. Military /Paramilitary have no proper way of been evaluated for any form of work trauma. This man could be having or experiencing trauma as the result of the nature of his job. May God help him and his family.
UYO STATE LAWMAKER RESCUES PUPILS AGAIN …DONATES DESKS TO SCHOOL
The member representing Uyo State Constituency in the Akwa Ibom State House of Assembly, Rt. Hon. Monday Eyo Okon, on Friday, donated 120 desks to the pupils of Government Primary School, Aka Offot, Uyo Local Government Area.
Hon. Monday Eyo who described Education as a bedrock of any society, and for any society to make progress, stated that when the foundation that is the primary level of education is well laid, motivated and properly activated, the child who is at the centre of learning is well prepared, informed and sharpened for the future both mentally and physically.
Headmaster of the School, Mr. Simon Edet Eyo, alongside the Village Head of Aka 1, Eteidung Francis, Hon. Kufre Mendi, while receiving the Lawmaker, commended him for his kind gesture and rapid response to the plight of the pupils within the short notice of time.
PDP RESPONSIBLE FOR FUEL HIKE- Don Etiebet …BLAMES OBJ,JONATHAN FOR OIL SPILLS IN NIGER DELTA
Former Petroleum Minister Chief Don Etiebet says the current fuel crisis in Nigeria is caused by the opposition Peoples Democratic Party.
Speaking in an interview in Uyo, Chief Etiebet the APC leader in Akwa Ibom explained that the petroleum distribution in Nigeria is controlled by PDP members who are causing the fuel hike to project President Muhammadu Buhari as a failure.
Buhari is the substantive Ministet of Petroleum in Nigeria.
“Who are still controlling the petroleum distribution in Nigeria; it is still the original PDP marketers.”
He attributed the fuel hike to the impending elections in the country, saying it is an attempt by the PDP marketers to discredit APC.
“Election time is coming and they are doing all kinds of thing for petrol not to be available, and what do they want? They want increase I petrol price so that they can use that against APC”
Etiebet, who was minister of petroleum under Gen. Sani Abacha attributed all oil spill in the South-South Zone to illegal bunkering.
He said illegal bunkering in Nigeria where sponsored by the previous Government OF Chief Olusegu Obasanjo and Dr. Goodluck Ebele Jonathan.
“Many Government in the past even up to the last Government have been supporting illegal bunkering; please quote me, I am the former minister for petroleum and I know the details”
On the proposed reintroduction of onshore/offshore oil dichotomy by the APC restructuring Committee, Dr. Etiebet said there was nothing wrong with the committee report.
“ I believe what the committee meant maybe oil discovered or produced outside that isoba boundary.”
He assured that president buhari has done well for Akwa Ibom with the development programme been seen in all part Akwa Ibom state and urged Akwa Ibom people to rally round him for the re-election of President Buhari in 2019
The NANS JCC Chairman Comrade. Ekanem Utibe seeks for partnership with wema bank
By Our Source