It is no longer news that the number of able bodied and mature young men in Nigeria (both the rich guys, the average guys, the broke guys) who are single and not planning to marry in the near future is growing geometrically everyday. In this short article, I will be revealing some of the factors responsible for this and how the Nigerian society can act fast to remedy the situation before it gets out of hand.
But before I forge ahead, let me remind our brothers and sisters who feel being single mothers or fathers is the best, or those who feel less worried about the growing trend of single parenthood in Nigeria, that happy homes, happy families make up happy society and flourishing nation.
What I am saying is this; if majority of Nigerian homes and families are disorganized and unhappy, then the Nigerian society will also be disorganized and unhappy too.
And statistics show that children raised by single parents are more prone to live violent and rascal life than children raised by both parents in a happy home setting…so Nigeria need more happy marriages, happy families, happy kids and happy spouses for Nigeria to grow and this is where Ministry of Culture and Ministry of Women Affairs need to come in; start preaching against Babymama ideology using educative TV series, adverts, Radio jingles, billboards, social media sponsored adverts, etc.
Now, back to the topic: why more Nigerian men are loosing interest in getting married!
1. Unemployment/Under-employment of male graduates and non-graduates:
How do we expect a young man earning less than 50,000naira in our present day economy to think of getting married￼ Thats suicidal!
What caused this￼ Skewed employment processes in favour of female graduates by HR personnels in Nigerian firms trying so hard to please women empowerment activists to the detriment of our common Nigerian family happiness.
We all would agree with me that since the past 10 years or so, we now see more number of female graduates that are gainfully employed than male graduates, and these female graduates refuse to marry the male graduates earning less than them because to these females; it means settling for less…which majority of them will never dare instead tthey are ready to remain single or become babymama to financially buoyant guys who arent ready to marry them or some even prefer to be side chicks (mistress) to older married men instead of marrying a guy earning lesser than them
2. Civilization and Copying of Western Lifestyle:
In our effort to copy the lifestyle and culture of the Europeans and Americans, we have created even more problems for Nigeria, and we have unknowingly killed the Nigerian man’s desire to get married.
We all know that the two major reasons majority of Nigerian men desire to get married are:
(i) to have children
(ii) to have access to good/constant food and to have his house domestically organized!
The aforementioned points are the key reasons majority of Nigerian men get married. Now if you remove these key factors, many Nigerian men will never want to marry.
And we are indirectly removing these two factors from Nigerian marriages, how?
Babymama trend has given financially buoyant Nigerian guys the opportunity to have children without getting married, which use to be an abominable act in Nigeria some decades ago.
Also, with the fervent preaching and agitation for feminism in Nigeria, whereby husbands are encouraged to start cooking, cleaning and washing for their wives just as its being practiced in America and Europe, take it or leave it, many Nigerian guys will see no need to get married again because many guys fantasize about getting married just so they can stop worrying about what to eat, who to cook for them or who to clean and keep their house. So when you preach that Nigerian husbands should start cooking and cleaning for their wives, you are unknowingly discouraging more Nigerian guys from getting married because to them, there is no need to marry again. Nothing fascinates Nigerian men about marriage anymore, sadly ￼
This same feminism is killing marriage interest among American and European young men; they now prefer to be baby daddy than to settle down. Are we ready for that in Nigeria￼ With this trend, I see many pretty, educated, nice Nigerian ladies remaining single for life if we refuse to address this growing feminism revolution in Nigeria.
3. Social Media/Mobile Internet Revolution
Everyone will agree with me that before we had social media; Faceboo, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc, etc including nairaland and blogs, couples; married and dating used to have enough time to themselves to discuss, play love game, gossip, etc, but today, Social media, blogs, forums, etc have taken over that time and moment couple do spend together. So with social media….and with
your mobile phone connected to the internet, you dont need to feel much lonely.
This social media and mobile internet revolution have also made it so easy for Nigerian guys to find date at will, making them not to see any need to be committed to one lady, sadly.
To many people, this growing trend of Nigerian men not being ready to settle down or not being committed to their female partner like we used to have in some decades ago is not a problem to them so long as it doesnt affect them now but they forgot that every global problem we are suffering from today started gradually some years back.
The more men refuse to marry, the more we have unmarried ladies and the higher the prostitution rate and the higher the number of children born out of wedlock and the higher we have children with no parental care, who may most like end up on the streets as criminals, drug barons, prostitutes, touts, terrorists easy-tools, kidnappers, ritualists and other social vices.
Nigerian government needs to do something to stop babymama trend in Nigeria and to also encourage more young men to get married. We need a massive family values campaign and re-orientation campaign to save Nigerian marriages and family values!
Amaechi Vows To Release Names Of Those Sabotaging Security
Minister of Transportation, Rotimi Amaechi has said that cabals are frustrating the recently approved $198m maritime security contract.
Amaechi vowed to publicly mention names of saboteurs while speaking at a Maritime Stakeholders’ Interactive Forum held in Warri, Delta State on Thursday.
He said “Reason, why vessels will not come to the Eastern ports, is because there is war insurance due to insecurity in the ports here.
“The war insurance means if the goods cost N10,000 in Lagos, it will cost N20,000 here because there is an extra cost on it due to Insecurity issues. Even as a minister, I can’t enter a boat ride from Warri to Port Harcourt due to insecurity issues, but I can move around Lagos at any time of the day.
“I once asked a former Governor of Anambra State, Peter Obi, why people from Anambra don’t import from Port Harcourt port, and he said it cost less to import from Lagos and move to Onitsha even with the price they pay on the road. It is cheaper to import from Lagos to Aba, yet Aba to Port Harcourt is a 30-minute drive.
“For shipowners, you need to do a petition to Mr President. The President approved a contract of $195m for maritime security, but there are people in the system sabotaging the contract because it will restore security in the water. I won’t say who they are until it gets out of control. We are still battling for the contract to take place, but if it gets out of place, we will name them publicly, including the security people involved.
“There are people who make billions of Dollars from the insecurity on the water, so they don’t want security on the water because if we secure the water, all their rubbish will go.
“There are businesses which provide the vessel for oil companies in the name of providing security. The moment we secure the water, they are out of jobs?
Prison Officer Brutalizes Son, Injures Him For Playing Football (Graphic)
According to a photographer who shared photos of a teenage boy brutalized by his father, almost went into coma after he sustained a deep injury on his head, just for playing football.
The Nigerian Prisons staff beats his son from 7:00pm till 2:30 am, says report.
See what the photographer/Instagram user wrote..
This happened at Oluwatedo area of Ibadan, Mr Adepoju Biodun is married with three kids,he works with Nigerian prison service Agodi,ibadan.his eldest child is Israel, On 16th February 2018 Israel went to play football and after the football his father beat him from 7:00pm till 2:30am in the early hours of Saturday till he sustained a deep cut on his head with blood everywhere in the house.his the appropriate way to correct or chastise our child. This is beyond chastisement. Israel was beaten to coma before he was later rushed to Don Bosco specialist hospital Ogungbade. I will soon upload the surface area of the deep cut as soon as they open it.his siblings also tolu and praise served severe punishment, they were relieved as soon as Israel was rushed to the hospital. Please share until the appropriate authorities sees this especially Nigerian prisons, UNICEF. #UNICEF #law #crazyfather #ibadan #opayemioludayo
#tolanialli #bayoomoboriowo #michaelomoboriowophotography #ajimobi #florenceajimobi #lawyer #nigerianprison #nigerianprison #freshfm #splashfm #inspirationfm
Beating for your son for playing football? My God.
Someone please remind him how much Neymar is worth per week!!! Kaii
There is another angle to look at this… No father in his right mind would do this to his own son!!! This is a clear case MENTAL ILLNESS/TRUMA probably due to the nature of his work. I am not a psychologist but I know in that in Nigeria we lack the culture of looking out for the signs of mental fatigue amongst our workers in all sector. Military /Paramilitary have no proper way of been evaluated for any form of work trauma. This man could be having or experiencing trauma as the result of the nature of his job. May God help him and his family.
UYO STATE LAWMAKER RESCUES PUPILS AGAIN …DONATES DESKS TO SCHOOL
The member representing Uyo State Constituency in the Akwa Ibom State House of Assembly, Rt. Hon. Monday Eyo Okon, on Friday, donated 120 desks to the pupils of Government Primary School, Aka Offot, Uyo Local Government Area.
Hon. Monday Eyo who described Education as a bedrock of any society, and for any society to make progress, stated that when the foundation that is the primary level of education is well laid, motivated and properly activated, the child who is at the centre of learning is well prepared, informed and sharpened for the future both mentally and physically.
Headmaster of the School, Mr. Simon Edet Eyo, alongside the Village Head of Aka 1, Eteidung Francis, Hon. Kufre Mendi, while receiving the Lawmaker, commended him for his kind gesture and rapid response to the plight of the pupils within the short notice of time.
PDP RESPONSIBLE FOR FUEL HIKE- Don Etiebet …BLAMES OBJ,JONATHAN FOR OIL SPILLS IN NIGER DELTA
Former Petroleum Minister Chief Don Etiebet says the current fuel crisis in Nigeria is caused by the opposition Peoples Democratic Party.
Speaking in an interview in Uyo, Chief Etiebet the APC leader in Akwa Ibom explained that the petroleum distribution in Nigeria is controlled by PDP members who are causing the fuel hike to project President Muhammadu Buhari as a failure.
Buhari is the substantive Ministet of Petroleum in Nigeria.
“Who are still controlling the petroleum distribution in Nigeria; it is still the original PDP marketers.”
He attributed the fuel hike to the impending elections in the country, saying it is an attempt by the PDP marketers to discredit APC.
“Election time is coming and they are doing all kinds of thing for petrol not to be available, and what do they want? They want increase I petrol price so that they can use that against APC”
Etiebet, who was minister of petroleum under Gen. Sani Abacha attributed all oil spill in the South-South Zone to illegal bunkering.
He said illegal bunkering in Nigeria where sponsored by the previous Government OF Chief Olusegu Obasanjo and Dr. Goodluck Ebele Jonathan.
“Many Government in the past even up to the last Government have been supporting illegal bunkering; please quote me, I am the former minister for petroleum and I know the details”
On the proposed reintroduction of onshore/offshore oil dichotomy by the APC restructuring Committee, Dr. Etiebet said there was nothing wrong with the committee report.
“ I believe what the committee meant maybe oil discovered or produced outside that isoba boundary.”
He assured that president buhari has done well for Akwa Ibom with the development programme been seen in all part Akwa Ibom state and urged Akwa Ibom people to rally round him for the re-election of President Buhari in 2019
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